Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
transformation through connection
You understand that relationships take effort. Yet it feels like no matter how hard you try, this sense of disconnect and frustration just doesn’t go away. It’s not because you don’t love your partner—but you feel stuck and afraid that the closeness you once had is slipping away. You might feel anxious, lonely, resentful, or angry. Those feelings are a normal response to your awareness of shifts in your relationship that have left a gap between you.
You’ve done your best to manage, but it’s hard to know where to turn when it feels like you’ve tried everything. Imagine if you could once again reach your partner and communicate your needs effectively. Together, we can work toward finding the closeness and connection you deserve. You can get unstuck, better understand yourself and your partner, and strengthen your bond.
Let’s break negative patterns and help you toward safe and meaningful connection
At the heart of your struggles in your relationship might be a fear of feeling unseen, alone, or maybe even abandoned. These feelings can leave you reaching toward your partner with anxiety or anger, only to watch them go into shut down and avoidance. But what if you could find a new way to reach each other? Through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, you can reconnect with your partner, rebuild trust and a shared sense of closeness.
Rediscover your bond with Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples.
As an EFT therapist, I collaborate with couples to restore trust and connection, while overcoming negative communication patterns. This process helps couples foster deep and lasting bonds. Together, we also build resilience in your relationship by practicing tools to navigate future challenges.
Our sessions will focus on creating a foundation of mutual understanding, helping you not only better communicate but feel seen and heard by your partner. This highly personalized, research-based approach allows for true and lasting change.
how therapy works
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Your journey begins with a free 15-minute telephone consultation where we’ll discuss your goals for therapy. This conversation helps us determine if we’re the right fit and ensures that you feel confident moving forward. Together, we’ll identify your immediate needs, and answer any questions you may have. By the end of our meeting, you’ll have clarity on how we’ll work together and feel ready to take the first step.
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During our first session, we’ll start to identify strengths in your relationship as well as the challenges that brought you here. This is a time for you to begin to experience sharing and listening in a different way, as I create a safe environment where you can be honest and vulnerable . We will start to identify patterns and challenges to begin planning our goals, as well as outlining what to expect in upcoming sessions.
In the next two sessions, I will meet with each partner individually to allow separate and safe space to gather information and better understand each person’s needs and concerns. Then we will come back together to continue our work.
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We’ll work together to create a personalized plan for your therapy experience. In couples therapy, we’ll need to define and prioritize each partner’s needs and concerns and establish goals that serve the relationship between you, as well as each person individually. Throughout our time together, we will measure progress and adjust our focus with flexibility to meet your evolving needs.
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Ongoing couples sessions are collaborative and experiential, where we not only talk about strategies for change but experience those strategies right in our sessions. Sessions are weekly and designed to adapt to your changing needs. As EFT is a shorter-term structured model, we’ll help you develop resilience and achieve lasting change without the long term commitment.
questions you may have
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EFT is a highly effective, empirically validated relationship therapy. Many of the clients using this modality experience “deeper” change than they might with other surface-level, solution-focused techniques.
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EFT couples therapy is a structured, short term treatment, typically spanning up to 20 or so sessions. However, each relationship in unique and needs can vary.
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It is important in our work that each partner feels valued and understood in our sessions, so I make great effort to get to know each of you. Since I view the relationship as the center of our treatment rather than playing referee or judge, couples tend to experience our sessions together as a safe place as we are all working together toward a shared goal - a healthier, more satisfying relationship.
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Short answer: no. Insurance policies typically do not cover couples therapy/marriage counseling. Therapists who bill insurance for couples counseling are often doing it under the guise of one client’s mental health diagnosis with the other partner present as support. Occasional inclusion of a partner can make sense to treat a client individually, but not for true couples work.
Additionally, to work with one partner’s diagnosis I would need to create and follow a treatment plan, goals, and interventions for that individual’s diagnosis, rather than the actual relationship dynamics. This does not fit with my ethical standards or approach to couples therapy.
If you have a question that I haven’t answered yet, please reach out!